Everything you have heard about babies providing hunger and sleepiness cues is bullshit. The single web post I read long ago about understanding a baby's cues for hunger (if she licks her lips, she's hungry) and sleepiness (if she rubs her eyes, she's sleepy) did not know what it was talking about. Babies function in a periodic routine - where everything is repeated every 3 hours during daylight hours. They sleep on the dot. They eat on the dot. They will not tolerate deviations from schedule. Babies lick their lips and rub their eyes all the time.
I tried following cues once. I tried making her sleep when she rubbed her eyes. She refused to sleep. She puked on me. I persisted trying to make her sleep. And after a lot of effort she slept. I looked at the clock. It was exactly 3 hours since she had last slept. Cleaning up the mess, I swore I would never try following cues again. And for 29 days since then I have been a happy camper.Babies are creatures of schedule. Little else.
Babies will gravitate towards forbidden articles. Without exception. And they will eat the said article when you are not looking.
The daughter has gazilions of toys. Toys that are made specifically for infants. Toys that are meant for the infant to shove into her mouth and maul to infinite glory. Toys that are periodically washed and do not even have a single molecule known to man to cause cancer and other life-threatening diseases.
And we also have television remote controls and a particularly disgusting slinky spring (which exists for some reason that I fail to recall) in the whereabouts of a play area. Of course, the sanitized toys are abandoned in favor the the filthy options - and active intervention (often followed by shouts of disapproval) is necessary to right this wrong.
Babies are not creatures that respect boundaries either. We try to keep her on a blanket on the carpet in the living room. But she always moves towards the edge of said blanket, with one arm on the (forbidden) carpet all the time.
Diaper changes are planned by babies to occur at the most inconvenient of times. A lot has been written about the cognitive ability of infants at this age: that they do not comprehend the concept of object permanence; that they do not acknowledge themselves as an entity. However, they do possess some rudimentary intelligence - which is almost exclusively dedicated to finding the most inopportune time to require a diaper change.
Fast asleep at midnight after several awakenings to pretend to feed? Yes, I need a diaper change.
Finally starting to drink milk after 20 minutes of staunch refusal? Yes, I need a diaper change.
Installed in a baby high chair with all buckles painstakingly fastened and food heated up, ready to eat? Yes, I need a diaper change.
That awesome piece on science friday about neanderthals has just started? Yes, I need a diaper change. And I need it now.
Baby sleep is quantized. Babies are quantum creatures - not just because there's always uncertainty about what they will do next. But their sleep schedules are surprisingly quantized -- during the day, they sleep in periods which are integer multiples of 35 minutes.
Well, not exactly. The 35 minutes is more of a statistical mean -- there's a distribution around it (though, thankfully with a tight standard deviation). In other words, babies are more complex than quantum mechanics.
Babies don't like to be alone. Often, babies will ignore you when you are trying to play with them. But it is usually a bad idea to try to exploit this situation to pour yourself a (much needed) warm cup of coffee. Because, even though they are focusing intently on munching on that tag on the teddy bear, they are equally closely monitoring you. Once you step out of field of vision, they will invariably cry - and if you don't respond even for a minute, you will most certainly see a tear on their eye. No matter how discreet you are.
They will almost murder you with tears the first time you make them sleep. When you try to make a baby sleep for the first time, they will test you. They way I see it: babies have been conditioned by evolution to not warm up to any one off the street. They need to run a test to see if the person trying to make them sleep is worthy of the privilege. So one must persist making them sleep, inventing maneuvers to comfort them (using the amplitude and spectrogram of the crying sound as closed-loop feedback parameters). This ensures the development of a 'go-to-sleep' routine. Rewards (for developing said routine) can be reaped soon - my record for transforming her from an active state to a sound sleep state is 1 minute.
Grandparents are excepted from these rules. My little stint with the daughter was bounded by two different (and incredibly capable) grandparents, who did not seem to be subject to the aforementioned constraints. (you could argue that this proves that my rules are not repeatable - so the above points cannot be actual science, as they seem to fail when the scientific method is applied with care - but I'll ask you to with withhold judgement and take this on faith).
With these little tips, you shall definitely be able to take care of your six month old. Just remember humans are capable of incredible things like climbing Everest, walking the Sahara barefoot, running marathons and operating windows 8. This should give you some confidence that you will probably be able to care for your little one.
STATUTORY WARNING **** if you were actually planning on taking this advice seriously, please get help. now.****